Voting with my body

Whilst teaching a recent workshop on using Focusing with decisions, I was struck by this simple truth: That if we are not doing something that we think we should do, that something in us has already made a decision about it. No matter what we think, something in us has already acted.

How many times have you left that email for weeks or months, not replying? How many times have you meant to make that call but not ever found the time? These situations can cause a bit of stress and difficulty in our life, they are like loose ends blowing about in the wind.

The tangle might get worse, we can then start criticising ourselves for not acting, we make excuses or lie to cover our inaction to ourselves and others. We endlessly avoid the issue, pushing it to the edge of our awareness. At the heart of it is this simple truth. Read More...